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Author: centurion Subject: 18 years old, male, in college, still a virgin. What should I do?
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18 years old, male, in college, still a virgin. What should I do?

I am in college right now as a first-year student studying engineering. I had few friends in high school, but the few that I had were very good friends...Nowadays though I don't have anyone to hang out with between classes or on the weekends because my high school friends are gone and I am still trying to get away from being SO anti-social. It's mighty hard for me.

I sit down for a test and I know what I'm supposed to do. I go to the gym and I know what to do. But I sit down next to a friendly stranger and I have NO idea what I am supposed to say. I just feel like I am going to mess the situation up no matter what I say or do, so on most occasions it's a miracle if I can work my way up to a simple "Hello."

I'm tired of always watching but never participating in any close interpersonal relationships. I have never had a girlfriend of any sort. Never kissed or anything like that. The closest I have ever gotten to that sort of thing has been hugging with the few female friends I had in high school. It's at the point that I am unable to feel anything whenever other people start talking about their own relationships. Most everyone else is saying "Yay!" or "Congratulations!" when two people get together, but I honestly could not care less. I feel like I have no ability to connect with people on that level. No empathy.

So I want it all to change, I just want to not feel like a loser. My dad gave me a pair of condoms to put in my wallet a few months ago but I have not come within 100 miles of a situation where I would use one. I also feel as if he is pressuring me to have a girlfriend. It seems like the sort of thing "everyone" has done except me.

So to summarize, I'm not a virgin because I've chosen to be. If the option showed up before me, I wouldn't be against it! But my habits are such that I'm starting to wonder when my time will come...

And please, no religion-related advice.

AFAIK, I am not an ugly duckling. Average-looking on most days, but not hideous.

I am not the fraternity type. The whole "frat brother" atmosphere, lifestyle, and ethos just doesn't seem like my thing.
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