diva
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posted on 06-03-2005 at 22:59 |
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Breaking my hymen
Hey, I'm a virgin and I can't get anything into my vagina and I think my hymen is causing it. It's kind of inconvenient because I can't use tampons or anything b/c I can't get them in. My question is, how can I break my hymen, or could I ask a doc (like the gyno) to break it for me? Thanks
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The Virgin Nurse
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posted on 06-04-2005 at 23:26 |
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So you want to break your hymen so you can fit a tampon in your vagina? Not a good idea.I don't think a gyno would break your hymen on request either. There are ways to break your hymen(which I think is not a bright idea):
1)Have sexual intercourse with a guy which will cause him to break your hymen if he goes too deep.
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diva
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posted on 06-05-2005 at 00:37 |
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That would work, except that I plan on using tampons NOW and losing my virginity AFTER marriage. I think it just might be too thick for me to break or fit anything through just by my own trying..I've been trying for years now...Thanks for the suggestion, but being a Christian Southern Baptist girl, I'm waiting for my husband until I have intercourse.
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The Virgin Nurse
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posted on 06-05-2005 at 00:42 |
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GO GIRL! Wait till marriage! Hey! I live in the south too and I'm a baptist girl too! BTW if you use a tampon still, you wont lose your virginity, it just strenchs your hymen a little bit, nothing serious:D
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diva
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posted on 06-05-2005 at 03:23 |
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Yeah, I know I won't lose it that way....I can't get the tampon in... That's really my only problem. I'm a premedical biology major, so I know a lot about "stuff," but I just can't get anything in...I figured it would stretch at least to let me get in a finger or something, but alas, I can get not a thing in. I was thinking about just going for a pelvic and seeing if the doc can get the speculum in...
~TaMaRa~
"Wait for the man who pursues you, the one who will make an ordinary moment seem magical, the kind of man who brings out the best in you and makes you want to be a better woman. Wait for the man who will be your best friend, the one who will drop everything to be with you. Wait for the man who makes you smile like no other guy makes you smile. Wait for the man who respects and loves you for who you are, not who everyone else wants you to be. Wait for the man who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats and no makeup, but loves it when you get all dolled up for him. Wait for the man who praises God for you, and encourages you daily in your walk, and most importantly, wait for the man who is more in love with God than you."
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The Virgin Nurse
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posted on 06-05-2005 at 03:29 |
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"Wait for the man who pursues you, the one who will make an ordinary moment seem magical, the kind of man who brings out the best in you and makes you want to be a better woman. Wait for the man who will be your best friend, the one who will drop everything to be with you. Wait for the man who makes you smile like no other guy makes you smile. Wait for the man who respects and loves you for who you are, not who everyone else wants you to be. Wait for the man who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats and no makeup, but loves it when you get all dolled up for him. Wait for the man who praises God for you, and encourages you daily in your walk, and most importantly, wait for the man who is more in love with God than you."
Wow...I 'm going to print that.Nice talking to you :)
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diva
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posted on 06-05-2005 at 22:11 |
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I really don't know who made up that quote I use for my sig....I got it from one of my college schoolmates....
I hate this hymen...I think I'm just gonna try to pop it myself...
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posted on 06-07-2005 at 08:53 |
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Whoa! Breaking your hymen is nothing to rush into. Rememebr you can never get it back if you change your mind later.
I myself went through the inconvenience of not being able to use tampons, but I'm very glad I waited. Because when I finally lost my hymen (at 22) it was with the perfect man that will now forever know, without any doubt, that I was a virgin.
Think of it this way...what if the 'do-it-yourself' mentality was reversed? For example: down the road you are with the perfect guy at perfect time and want to please him in an intimate way--but instead of being flattered, he says, "No thanks, I jacked off before I came over."
That probably would make you fell too special, would it?
Save it for a special guy, you have nothing to lose by waiting. :)
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diva
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posted on 06-07-2005 at 18:36 |
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I really don't care...Some girls don't even have a hymen, and I really don't care if mine's missing, as long as I know why it's missing and what happened to pop it (if it were there in the first place). I'm not going to have intercourse to pop it or anything; I just don't want it there. I mean, I wouldn't have like mental pangs about it or whatever...it's not so much as I don't want to look like a virgin; I just don't want it there in the first place and it bugs me.
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ariel
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posted on 06-08-2005 at 06:42 |
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I felt the same way too, I hated my hymen and wanted to wear tampons. I was going to break my own with my fingers or a dildo. But, my mom's friend, who is a gyno, explained that doing it yourself can damage sensitive nerve endings and take pleasure out of sex later on.
So, I went out and found a guy to do the deed. (not what my mom's friend meant for me to do. she would kill me if she knew that) He was a jerk, but now i'm with someone great and the sex is fantastic. My friend is also sexually active, but she tore her own with a dildo and she says sex isn't that great, and hardly ever has an organsm, so I guess it is true.
Find a guy to break your hymen, cause good sex is worth it.
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ariel
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posted on 06-08-2005 at 06:50 |
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About some girls not having a hymen...
This was written by Flip in another post, but I think it is accurate:
It is true that many women break their hymen through some activity (rough sports, tampons, etc.), sometimes without even knowing it.
But this line about some or many girls being born without one has got to stop! The hymen is a biologic fact of the female anatomy. It is remotely possible to be born without one, but it is only about as probable as being born with one breast. You have a better chance of being struck by lighting a couple times than being born without a hymen!
(It's still a great excuse if you want to lie about being a virgin, though )
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diva
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posted on 06-08-2005 at 15:15 |
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Well, as a premedical biology major, I know there can be a dimished hymen or that it APPEARS to be absent; I wasn't necessarily meaning there isn't one at all, but if you know how the hymen is formed during prenatal development, it's possible that the membrane is there but acutally did separate completely before the baby was born. Before that, there is no opening to the vagina; therefore we have all the different types of hymen, including some that never did form the opening (imperforate) and the cribriform and the likewise. It's also true that some women that engage in intercourse indeed do still have an intact hymen. A big problem lies in those hymen that aren't the annular type, when it comes to tampons and the such I mean. I could go on forever, but I realize I'm not in class trying to make sure I get the answers right on an exam. Lol. But a hymenectomy/hymenotomy sounds really good to my ears about now.
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posted on 06-26-2005 at 23:04 |
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same boat...
I totally understand!!!
I want to use tampons too!! But I can't because of my stupid hymen. The big thing for me is... Pads SUCK!!! I feel like I am sitting on diaper all day and I hate the feeling!
I've tried to pop it but I guess I am a whimp and have a super low pain tolerance!! I just can't do it. Gah, why couldn't the GYN do it?!
This hymen thing is literally driving me up the wall!!!
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posted on 06-28-2005 at 00:06 |
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Getting rid of your hymen
There really is no substitute to having a man break your hymen, unfortunately. That is the only way you can be sure of the angle of entry, and the arousal of vaginal muscles stretching the hymen the right way to avoid bad tears that will mess a sex later on, or damage sensitive nerve endings. (Popping your own can have about the same effect on your vagina as being forcibly raped.)
Being too insecure to ever talk with a guy about sex, I had no prospects to lose my hymen, and thought about asking the gyno or doing it some mechanical way. But, thankfully found the right man through this site. (No, not one of the pervs that replied to my post, but a guy introduced to me by another girl on this site, who also lost he virginity with him.) She said he was awesome and gentle, but forgot to mention he was so cute. I do wear tampons now and, feel like a new person!
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posted on 06-30-2005 at 18:25 |
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There's a certain trick to sucessfully learning how to get in a tampon. It really doesn't matter if you still have a hymn and you've never put anything inside you. I couldn't get in tampons for the longest time but then i found a way to stretch the vagina..yet my hymn is still completely intact and putting in a tampon is now painless. First, you have to practise with your finger right after masterbating. Do it directly after you orgasm and when you're very wet. Start with one finger and progress from there. Once you're use to exploring the area with your fingers, you'll know the angle and shape of your vagina and then have no problem getting in a tampon. It's easiest if you do it right after an orgasm or when you're aroused and wet because you're body is most relaxed and your vagina ballons out and expands.(gets larger) Stretching the area doesn't break the hymn, it just makes it more comfortable to get objects in and might make first time sex less painful. Plus I think it's good to explore your body like that before you have sex anyway.
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posted on 07-02-2005 at 10:59 |
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dont have to have sex!
my friend had a double hymen and had trouble with tampons, then she got surgery to break it, and now its all good. thats all i really know about her situation, cuz its not like something she was totally willing to share. but she went to the gyno and got it taken care of. being faithfully LDS (mormon), having sex before marriage or masturbating was never an option, and it goes to prove that it doesnt have to be an option for anyone else! just go to the doctor!
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posted on 07-05-2005 at 18:44 |
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how far up is it? i've been curious for a while....is it possible for a guy to be small enough were he doesn't even reach it?
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diva
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posted on 07-08-2005 at 08:21 |
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Re:
It's not that far up...You can take a mirror and see it. It's at the opening of the vagina (not the opening of the vulva).
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diva
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posted on 07-08-2005 at 08:24 |
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Hymenectomy/Hymenotomy
Women can get their hymen cut or removed....Sometimes it's necessary; sometimes women do it just so they can get in tampons, etc. Anyone can have it though; just tell the gynecologist.
~diva, premed biology major~
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posted on 02-16-2006 at 00:43 |
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Don't do it.
' this line about some or many girls being born without one has got to stop! The hymen is a biologic fact of the female anatomy. It is remotely possible to be born without one, but it is only about as probable as being born with one breast. You have a better chance of being struck by lighting a couple times than being born without a hymen!
(It's still a great excuse if you want to lie about being a virgin, though )'
I agree, I wouldn't believe it anyway.
I agree with the other posters. Don't break it.
Wait for your husband. You will be glad you did, it will be nice because he doesn't have anything to break. Like another poster said, what if he had masturbated instead of wanting to have sex with you?
I'd never marry a woman that didn't have a hymen.
Especially if she said she had broke it herself.
That's just wrong and doesn't show respect for your future husband.
If you're a Christian you won't do it.
If you're wondering I'm a Christian. (Independent Baptist)
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posted on 02-20-2006 at 01:04 |
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Its her decision not yours!
Scribe, it just so happens that sometimes the hymen is overly thick, has too small an opening or formed incorrectly and surgery is a necessity. Have a little empathy. The hymen in such circumstances can be excessively painful or even impossible to penetrate by normal means.
I'd never marry a woman that didn't have a hymen.
Especially if she said she had broke it herself.
That's just wrong and doesn't show respect for your future husband.
If you're a Christian you won't do it.
I'm sorry but you sound a little pigheaded when you say such things. I understand that you think that a hymen shows purity but the hymen doesn't necessarily break during intercourse. Also (and this is the reason you sound pigheaded) don't say that just because some one is a christian that they will or will not do something. That is being overly judgemental and I know thats something you didn't learn from being a Christian. A parallel would be saying that if your a Christian you wouldn't wear clothes since we only wear clothes because of our sinful nature.
It is great to have a strong set of beliefs but don't be overly forceful or try to scare people into feeling the same way. You will find out that you push more people away than you bring to your side doing such things.
Im sorry if I have offended you. That is not the point of this or any of my posts. I just think that maybe you should try to see things from another person's point of view before you decide to judge them or even offer advice. I am a Christian as well and can see many of the points you have made in some of your posts but sometimes you seem to get a little carried away. Thats not always a bad thing but sometimes it can be.
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posted on 02-20-2006 at 13:02 |
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Sorry but no female should break their hymen unless it is fully blocking their vagina and they can't pee or menstrate through it.
(which is very rare)
Seems others agree with me about not breaking it.
I've read where other guys have said they would leave their girlfriends or wives if they said they were a virgin and didn't have a hymen. I tend to agree.
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first of all the hymen will not block the urethra and thereby will not obstruct the flow of urine. Thats kind of a separate part. Now back to the point I was trying to make before. I understand how you feel about not wanting a woman to break her own hymen but thats not really what I was talking about in my previous post. What I was trying to get across is that women have a particularly thick or small hymen that can be impossible to break through normal intercourse. in such an instant it is preferable for a woman to see a gynocologist. There is no point in her going through the extra pain and anguish of feeling like there's something wrong with her or feeling like she failed her husband.
I just don't necesarily feel the same way about a woman not having a hymen. When I meet my future wife, I hope to be able to have enough trust in her that she will be honest with me. I'm not going to base my future relationship on a little flap of skin. (just a little FYI here. The hymen is not to dissimilar from the foreskin of a mans penis.)
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hymen incident...
so when i was 15 i found out i had a septate hymen. unfortunately i found this out because i couldn't get my tampon out and was (yes,embaressingly enough) rushed to the hospital. i kind of knew about it before hand because i had trouble getting my tampons out, but then the last time it was just so bad. so it was more serious than the dr thought and i had to be put under anesthesia and what not. so it was a really bad experience in that way, but i've now had a boyfriend for over a year and i'm ready to have sex..the worst part about this hymen is that i can't use tampons and..although it's possible to have sex,i'm afraid it will hurt and that his penis will get stuck..i know it sounds crazy but if a tampon got stuck, can't a penis?...i guess not cause i read other stories but i'm still scared. ive talked too my parents about having a hymenoctomy surgey(i hope i spelt it right) because the dr felt i was too young to do it when i was 15..my parents have been talking about it and see where i'm coming from because i think its totally unfair and i feel like i total mutant because i didnt know anyone else who had this problem.
so my question is, if i'm allowed, should i go through with the surgery? or, should i have sex and it will break then?but then im afraid that it will hurtt sooooo bad..so yeah if anyone can help me out...please i'd appreciate it.
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